So, you’ve caught feelings and maybe, just maybe, this could be love. And what better way to find out if this cutie is The One than astrology?
Look: Most astrological compatibility resources focus explicitly on Sun signs, which are obviously based on your date of birth—but they don’t incorporate your birth times and locations. And you need all three—your date, time, and location of birth—to get your full birth chart. Because to be honest, astrological compatibility is a lot more complicated than your Sun signs! While your Sun sign is super important and tells you about your identity, your Moon sign tells you about your emotional inner world, your Venus sign tells you about your attitude toward love and pleasure, your Mars sign tells you about your perspective on passion, your Saturn sign tells you about how you experience commitment… which are all very important in relationships!!! Basically, the more information you have about someone’s birth details, the more you can find out about how your birth charts vibe romantically. Synastry, also known as the art of comparing two people’s birth charts to assess their compatibility and relationship, can go very deep.
Now, let’s just say you don’t have all those extra birth details but you still know your sweetie’s birthday (including the year). While you won’t get some details of their birth chart, like their Rising sign, just a birthday can still give you a ton of information—like their Venus and Mars signs. Check out a handy synastry calculator like this one to do the hard work for you.
Here are some possible astrological connections that show if your connection is out of this world. FYI: You don’t need all of them to have a meaningful relationship—even just a couple can give you eternal heart-eyes.
Compatible Moon Signs
An extremely important factor when looking at a relationship is determining if your Moon signs are aligned. In a sense, it can help you to know how each processes your feelings on a deeper, internal level. For instance, if two people have the same Moon sign, this means that they often share similar emotional rhythms and at the end of the day have an easier time finding a sense of peace and unity.
If two people have the same element for their Moon signs, this can also help them ebb and flow more easily, too. For example, if you and your boo both have fire sign Moons—like an Aries Moon and a Leo Moon—you’ll crave similar levels of passion and intensity and get excitable more easily. Two people with earth sign Moons—like a Virgo Moon and a Taurus Moon—will revolve around having a sense of emotional stability and security together. If two air sign Moons—like a Gemini Moon and a Libra Moon—are chilling, then this also brings an intellectual flair to how they align, plus a heightened need to chat, chat, chat. Finally, two water sign Moons—say, Scorpio Moon and Pisces Moon—are both immensely sensitive, bringing the pair a truly empathic and compassionate approach to how they align with one another at a soul level.
Another factor to note is that because the Moon and planets move day by day, those with Moon signs in the same zodiac sign or in the same element will likely experience astrological aspects around the same time, too, revealing that you’re often in a similar pattern! So a similar rhythm of feeling feisty, moody, somber, or joyous will also often overlap.
Ascendant-Descendant Match
If you can get all the info for both of your birth charts, you’ll be able to learn just how perfect your match is (or isn’t). In astrology, your Ascendant (aka your Rising sign) is opposite something called your Descendant. To find your Descendant, just look for the zodiac sign opposite your Rising sign, or six signs away on the zodiac.
Congenial Elements
About those elements! You know how some people just “get you”? Well, it might not be obvious from your Sun signs, but you may actually have a lot of planets in congenial elements, meaning you just sorta vibe on the same frequency. While you’re not totally the same, your differences mean that you complement each other super well. Fire signs + air signs = “Let’s get lit!” and earth signs + water signs = “Let’s flow.”
Sun-Moon Aspects
Your Sun sign is definitely major because it’s tied to your ego and life force, but your Moon sign is also very important because it’s connected to your inner emotions and soul. Having these two luminaries interacting in your charts is fabulous because it shows strong psychological and emotional attraction. This can be intense, but to be honest, it often leads to a meaningful and supportive connection.
Venus-Mars Links
Whoa! When Venus, ruling love, connects to Mars, ruling passion, you know that there will be amazing chemistry. If these planets are dancing together between your charts, you’ll also feel that you’re living a cosmic romance. Pleasant interactions between these planets (like those conjunctions, trines, and sextiles I mentioned) lead to a peaceful and sweet rapport, but more challenging aspects (like squares, aka three signs apart, or oppositions, aka six signs apart) turn up the heat (hint, hint: mind-blowing sex).
Outer Planet Connections
The outer planets—Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto—can also influence our relationships, although often a bit less directly than the inner planets. When outer planets in one person’s chart link with anything else in the partner’s astrology, you tend to have a transformative effect on each other. You could change each other’s lives in subtle or even massive ways.
So, use this astrology knowledge to see if your connection is truly one for the stars!